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You are the answer you have been looking for…The BALM Shows You How…

Addiction Recovery for Families, BALM, BALM 12 Principles | February 22, 2024

Pre-and or early recovery are tough. Tough on the person struggling. Tough on the family.  How can a family member survive the stress and help their loved one?

BALM’s inside-out approach can make all the difference!

Ever get that feeling of the ground crumbling beneath your feet?

Or a chasm so deep within you that you aren’t sure you can ever even breathe your way out of it?

Are you trying your best to help your loved one and finding rejection one moment and almost desperate need in the next?

If so, you may be facing the very common experience of many in relationship with someone struggling with a substance use disorder (SUD), other addiction, or mental health disorder.

The odd thing about this experience is that it may appear as a sort of awakening.  This is because prior to facing your loved one’s difficulties directly, you may have been in denial, thinking your loved one was acting in weird ways but not realizing that they were dealing with disordered thinking that could result in dangerous outcomes.

In other words, coming out of denial about the seriousness of a loved one’s situation can feel like being blinded by the light of an awareness so bright that you want to shield yourself from its effects and even go back to the darkness.


There is a simple answer to that question as old as the ages and as new as each moment of experience:

Simply Be.

  • Lower your inner temperature through whatever meditation, mindfulness, or breath practices help you stay centered so you can be at peace with all that is going on in your life and theirs.

Be aware of who they are being. 

  • See it objectively
  • Look without opinion at their behaviors
  • Listen without judgment to their words

Be Aware of who you are being and how you are feeling as you face your current situation and theirs

  • See how you are reacting, speaking, and acting in response to what is going on without judgment of yourself.

So you can see that this may be simple but it is not easy. With BALM, however, it is doable.

In addition to shifting your attitude, your BALM studies will also help you learn new ways to relate to your struggling loved one.

You will learn:

  • How to use leverage
  • How to speak lovingly, clearly, and factually.
  • How to take care of yourself.
  • How to be loving without enabling or hurting them
  • How to set boundaries that protect you from going against your values

And yet, learning is fragile and finite without guidance and practice.

The BALM is your teacher. And it all starts with the 12 Principles.

The 12 Principles will help you achieve your attitudinal shift and move yourself, your loved one and your family forward!

Join us for an introductory webinar on How to Achieve Your Attitudinal Shift with the BALM 12 Principles on Wednesday 2/28/24 at 8 PM. We will explore this idea of a shift and how it can help you dramatically improve your life!

Click here to register for the webinar.