Uncertainty and the BALM
Terri’s daughter just got suspended from high school. Charla’s son lost his college scholarship. In both cases, due to a substance use disorder.
That feeling of everything spinning out of control is so familiar and is often at the core of so much of our woe as family members of loved ones struggling with use disorder.
You may ask yourself ‘what now?’ and have no idea what the answer is. In such situations, control of your future is all you want and is just so unattainable…
Instead, you are stuck wondering…
… if he will be able to stop drinking.
…if she will be able to stay sober.
… if he will lose his job.
…if she will be expelled from school.
…what will the judge say?
…what will the assessment conclude?
…how will we ever know if he lives so far away?
…how will she ever get through high school if she stays in treatment another month?
…what if he turns out like his uncle?
…what if she grows up to have a use disorder?
Questions like these can haunt us when we are in the throes of our own disordered thinking. So, what can we do to get help?
The BALM is the antidote to uncertainty.
This is because uncertainty lives in tomorrow and to Be A Loving Mirror (BALM) is to live in this moment right here and right now.
The BALM is referred to as the loving path to family recovery. We become loving every time we let go of past and future tripping and allow the moments to unfold as they will.
When we give up on having total control through worry and coercion, we have the opportunity to allow life to be what it is, while looking objectively at each situation and calmly working toward a positive solution.
The path toward peace is filled with peace. To learn more about how to become the peace you wish you to see in your world, read BALM – The Loving Path to Family Recovery.
Remember, it takes what it takes to be there for yourself and your loved one to experience ongoing recovery! What will it take for you?
Be A Loving Mirror!
Beverly A. Buncher, MA, PCC, CBC, CTPC
Family Recovery Coach/CEO
Family Recovery Resources, LLC
786 859 4050