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Self Care? I Can Hardly Take a Shower

BALM | October 24, 2015

Taking care of a family can be taxing.

So can having a job.

So can having a spouse or child who is using.

Put them all together and taxing turns to traumatic.

Family members often come into the BALM® having not taken a shower for days at a time.

Hair graying, house a mess, medical appointments missed. These are all possible signs of the life rot that can happen when your own life is twisted so tightly around the life of someone else that you cannot think straight.

So, what is the answer?

Principle Five offers a few tips. This Principle states: Putting Your Focus on Yourself and off of Your Loved One Will Benefit You Both.

If you are like many family members, the principle makes sense to you, but you cannot for the life of you figure out how to stop watching your loved one’s every move. After all, they could die. It could all be over.

In the meantime, time is ticking away and they are still alive.

BALM® invites you to get your head out of the bleak future your imagination is terrorizing you with and get it back into this moment.

Take a shower,

Brush your teeth.

Have your annual physical.

Join the Daily BALM® Calls.

Visit that friend you have been neglecting.

Take the next 7 Steps course.

Take the Assessment tool in Principle Five to find out which areas of your life you are neglecting.

Then, use the guide to help you plan an action step in the coming week that will help you take a baby step in your own direction.

Yes, bad things sometimes happen to people who drink and use.

But not taking care of yourself won’t keep them from happening.

Surprise your loved one and yourself with a new commitment to your own wellbeing.

Be A Loving Mirror – To Yourself!!!


Be A Loving Mirror!

Beverly A. Buncher, MA, PCC, MRLC, CTPC

Family Recovery Coach/CEO

Family Recovery Resources, LLC

786 859 4050