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Self Care? I Can Hardly Take a Shower

BALM | October 24, 2015
Self care is important in the road to family recovery

Taking care of a family can be taxing.

So can having a job.

So can having a spouse or child who is using.

Put them all together and taxing turns to traumatic.

Family members often come into the BALM® having not taken a shower for days at a time.

Hair graying, house a mess, medical appointments missed. These are all possible signs of the life rot that can happen when your own life is twisted so tightly around the life of someone else that you cannot think straight.

So, what is the answer?

Principle Five offers a few tips. This Principle states: Keeping the Focus on Yourself and off of Your Loved One Will Help You Both.

If you are like many family members, the principle makes sense to you, but you cannot for the life of you figure out how to stop watching your loved one’s every move. After all, they could die. It could all be over.

In the meantime, time is ticking away and they are still alive.

BALM® invites you to get your head out of the bleak future your imagination is terrorizing you with and get it back into this moment.

Take a shower,

Brush your teeth.

Have your annual physical.

Join the Daily BALM® Calls.

Visit that friend you have been neglecting.

Take the next 7 Steps course.

Take the Assessment tool in Principle Five to find out which areas of your life you are neglecting.

Then, use the guide to help you plan an action step in the coming week that will help you take a baby step in your own direction.

Yes, bad things sometimes happen to people who drink and use.

But not taking care of yourself won’t keep them from happening.

Surprise your loved one and yourself with a new commitment to your own wellbeing.

Be A Loving Mirror – To Yourself!!!

Beverly A. Buncher, MA, PCC, MRLC, CTPC
Family Recovery Coach/CEO
Family Recovery Resources, LLC
786 859 4050

If you would like to learn more about Principle 5 and the other 11 Principles call 1-888-998-BALM (2256) option 2 or 3.