Bringing the BALM® to Europe
Lucy Tomkins, ACC, CBC
Certified BALM Family Recovery Life Coach
In brief, I have a twenty-eight-year-old son who has been in recovery from drugs and alcohol for over five years, and in February 2015, I took the huge first step in looking after myself and asked my husband of thirty-two years to leave. I had set a boundary after he came out of rehab eight years ago that I would support his recovery, but I would not support a relapse or his addiction if he chose not to reengage with his program and be honest with me. It was at this very scary time of my life, aged fifty-six, that I found the BALM on the internet and did the second huge step in my self-care and called Bev. A few weeks later, I enrolled in the coaching program and started my BALM education.
I had thought that I was just enrolling in a program to become a family recovery coach, to help the families of loved ones struggling with substance use disorder. I had no idea what an impact the BALM was going to have on me. I have learned more about myself in the last two years than I have in my entire lifetime. I have grown into the person I can love, trust, rely on, and believe in. I have finally started to grow up at age fifty-eight!! Well, perhaps not in everything, but it’s a start.
In the beginning, everything I listened to, read, and was taught, I thought, “Oh, that would really help my son or my husband, never me.” In my mind, I was not the screwed-up one in need of fixing. Now I hungrily digest everything for what it can do for me–how I can learn and grow from it. My job is to role model how I can live the most fulfilling, purposeful, happy, joyous life I can.
There is not enough room here to list everything I have learned through taking the BALM, but all I can say is that I am so grateful every day that I stumbled across it back in 2015. It has transformed my life. Is it a perfect life now? Absolutely not. Are there challenges’? Yes, most days. Do I feel I now have the tools, support, and education to deal with them? Absolutely yes.
Thank you, the BALM, Bev, and my wonderful cohort–I owe you all. xOxO
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