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BALM | July 4, 2017

My name is Lucy Tomkins and I came into the Balm® in 2015.

In brief I have a 28 year old son who has been in recovery from drugs and alcohol for over 5 years and in February 2015 I took the huge first step in looking after myself and asked my husband of 32 years to leave.  I had set a boundary after he came out of rehab 8 years ago, that I would support his recovery but I would not support a relapse or his addiction, if he chose not to re engage with his programme and be honest with me.  It was at this very scary time of my life, aged 56, that I found The BALM® on the internet and did the 2nd huge step in myself care and called Bev.  A few weeks later I enrolled in the coaching programme and started my BALM® education.

I had thought that I was just enrolling in a programme to become a Family Recovery Coach, to help the families of loved ones struggling with substance use disorder.   I had no idea what an impact The BALM® was going to have on ME.  I have learnt more about myself in the last 2 years than I have in my entire lifetime.  I have grown into the person I can love, trust, rely on and believe in.  I have finally started to grow-up aged 58!! Well perhaps not in everything, but it’s a start………

In the beginning everything I listened to, read, was taught I thought, “Oh that would really help my son or my husband, never me.  In my mind, I was not the screwed up one, in need of fixing.  Now I hungrily digest everything for what it can do for me – how I can learn and grow from it.  My job is to role model how I can live the most fulfilling, purposeful, happy, joyous life I can.

There is not enough room here to list everything I have learnt through taking The BALM® but all I can say is that I am so grateful every day that I stumbled across it back in 2015.  It has transformed my life.  Is it a perfect life now? Absolutely not.  Are there challenges’?  Yes most days.  Do I feel I now have the tools, support and education to deal with them? Absolutely yes.

Thank you The BALM®, Bev and my wonderful cohort – I owe you all. xxx

If you would like to hire Lucy as a coach, email info@familyrecoveryresources.com

If you would like to learn more about The BALM® Comprehensive Family Recovery Education Program CLICK HERE.

If you would like to learn more about The BALM® Institute ICF-ACTP Family Recovery Life Coach Training Program CLICK HERE.