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A BALM COACH SHARES HER EXPERIENCE WITH PRINCIPLE 5: KEEPING THE FOCUS ON YOURSELF AND OFF OF YOUR LOVED ONE WILL HELP YOU BOTH

BALM | June 28, 2017

By Jackie Stein, BALM® Family Recovery Life Coach

In the BALM® family program, one of the things we are taught is that when it comes to addiction, there are no guarantees and that whether or not our Loved Ones can get and stay clean, we can still learn the tools to Be A Loving Mirror. I am here to tell you that it is absolutely true.

I first found the BALM® community in the fall of 2015, as a family member of a Loved One suffering from many years of alcoholism.  He has many years of sobriety in the past but for the last nine years he has been unable to maintain long term recovery.  As a person in recovery myself, that has been a very difficult situation for me.  At several stages in the relationship, before finding the BALM®, the outcomes were painful and exhausting.  That being said, it has been so very different since I have been learning to use the BALM® methods for transformation of my own life and learning the tools of self-care.   There were many opportunities for me to grow mentally, emotionally and spiritually.  I was able to learn that there are stages of change for both the Loved One and the family members and I started to learn how to make those changes.  I developed skills to keep the focus on myself and not on my Loved One.   I discovered ways to heal my relationships with my Higher Power, myself and others.  I heard important information about boundaries and how to set them.  My Loved One has not been able to maintain long tern recovery, but I have acquired tools to help me maintain my own.  I am not perfect, but I am so much better than I was.

As a result of this journey, I chose to take the steps to become a life coach and BALM® Family Recovery Life Coach, so that I can share what I have learned with others.  Being in recovery not only from substance use but also my current drug of choice (my Loved One), and being able to guide others through their own tumultuous time is my passion.  I am forever indebted to the BALM® Method of Family Recovery and it’s Creator, Bev Buncher and the The BALM® Institute for making this a reality for me.


If you would like to hire Jackie as a coach to help you with your struggle with a loved one suffering from Substance Use Disorder or Addiction or learn more about the BALM® Method of Family Recovery, please email: info@familyrecoveryresources.com or Click HERE.